I also feel like his messing up by calling SA he over and over again is forced.
Gkrieg, this is just out of line. I have already said that I find the pronouns issue personally offensive, and you're implying that I might have been encouraging it for the sake of looking like a non-scum-partner? It's absolutely not okay for anyone to encourage others to act in a discriminatory or insensitive way about a minority just to win a game, and that's pretty much what your suggestion there amounts to.
I let one or two instances of misgendering on the part of non-native English speakers slide because their language usage backgrounds might be a little different... see the fact that I haven't even complained about deidre's post at #882 yet. I just don't have the time/mental energy to keep correcting people and to fight what feels like a losing battle for town at the same time without letting one thing derail the other. If I'd had a scum QT with Calamitas, you can bet I'd have sorted out the pronouns issue with him the moment it arose.
SA, he means this only in game, and again, no personal offence is meant.
I understand fine that it's probably not what he
meant, and I don't need you to explain his meaning to me, thank you. What gkrieg actually suggests is that I might have been deliberately encouraging (or at best, allowing) Calamitas behave in a
socially unacceptable manner in order to win potential town points for myself. And I'm saying that's unethical play, which goes beyond the game. Would you want to hang out on a forum that allowed casual racism to be used in the same way?
Also, the fact that you only replied to this part of his post, instead of including anything else, makes me think you're scummier.
I already said that trying to argue both at once is tiring! And I did in fact also point out in there that if Calamitas had been in a scum QT with me I'd have had a better communication channel in which to get to know him and stop him from making quite such a spectacular pronoun-fail. He'd regard me as more of a person if we'd had that connection, but we didn't. That's pretty much the best case I have for not being scumbuddies with him, because VT is a useless role and I don't have any other information.
Even when I was pointing out what I thought were the main reasons I read Calamitas as town, I acknowledged that the main one I quoted (the misgendering of EFHW) didn't hold if diedre was his scum partner, and it looks like that's true. Given that Calamitas actually was scum after all, this has become the one piece of evidence I have that it's diedre and not you, tenuous though it is, since I guess it's possible to pick a target using only a username. I imagine you and Calamitas would have discussed things, though, and neither of you seems to have been particularly hesitant with the use of pronouns..