Are you not getting the five minute time out?
No I get it, but I've realized that when you win by virtue of the five minute time out, the game doesn't count as a win. My rating didn't change after it.
Is your rating more important than having fun? Serious question, not trying to be a dick.
My rating isn't more important than having fun. But it's
also very important to me. I'm a competitor; I like being good at something, improving at it, and seeing objective evidence that I am making progress. In high school I ran track competitively, and while in a very real sense I was doing it for more reason than just to be good at it... I wanted to know my times. If I just ran a 400 meter dash and I think it was fast, well, I want to know exactly how fast it is. That's a big part of the reason that I do it.
This game I played today, my opponent was two Colonies ahead of me. But man, my strategy was better, I had just taken the rest of the Curses thanks to my opponent's Torturers, I had finished draining the Farming Village pile with Workshop, and I had just used 3 Horns of Plenty to pick up King's Court/City/City. These Level 2 Cities were the only source of +buy, and my opponent had none. Which means I could safely drain the City pile to 2 if I wanted--he had no way to gain more than 1 thing per turn. Which also means I had him totally defeated; I could afford perhaps 2 more turns of building before a huge Horns/Kings/Cities/(and Bishop!) megaturn got me all the rest of those points. And I had planned this, I hadn't panicked when I fell behind in Colonies, or when I had accepted 3 Curses.
But I never got to finish that game, and I never got credit for it. And that's something Goko has to fix before I ever play another random opponent.